I always longed to know the secrets of confident people and decided to gather a comprehensive guide that can help women like me feel happy and healthy. I decided to reach out to women in my network and asked about their personal self-care rituals and affirmations.
What I discovered was both game-changing and obvious at the same time. These practices are easy to follow, yet offer numerous benefits. I am confident that if I can do it, so can you.
Here are 12 habits of self-love that are straightforward yet impactful.
Don't compare yourself to others
Society trains us to compete, but comparing can be harmful. Embrace your uniqueness and focus on your own journey. This shift in perspective can bring a sense of liberation.
2. Let go of perfection
We're repeatedly told "no one's perfect, everyone makes mistakes". However, the older you grow, the more stress you experience to avoid failure. Give yourself a break! Make mistakes so you can learn and improve. Embrace your history. You're continuously evolving from your past self to who you are now and who you'll be in the future.
Thus, ignore the inner voice insisting on perfection. Make lots of mistakes - the knowledge gained is invaluable.
3. Don't get stuck in other's opinions
Trying to please everyone is fruitless and hinders your growth. Focus on being your best self, not on societal expectations.
4. Recall your worth isn't defined by your physical appearance
This is essential! Numerous external factors try to divert you from this significant truth. Sometimes even your internalized gender biases reinforce feelings of inadequacy. Your worth stems from being you, not your body.
Therefore, dress in what brings you joy. Whether it's much or little, wear what gives you assurance, ease, and happiness.
5. Don't hesitate to let got of toxic individuals
Not all people own up to the negativity they project. If there's someone who introduces toxicity into your life and refuses accountability, it may be necessary to distance yourself from them. Don't fear taking this step, it's freeing and crucial, even if it hurts.
Keep in mind: Shield your energy. It's not impolite or incorrect to distance yourself from draining circumstances or people.
6. Have a conversation with your fear
Fearful feelings, like mistakes, are normal and human. Don't dismiss your fears - examine them. This constructive practice can significantly benefit your mental well-being. Examining and assessing your fears enables you to gain insight and reveal the sources of your anxiety. This can then relieve some, if not all, of your anxiety.
7. Believe in your ability to make favorable choices for you
We frequently question our judgment and capacity for doing what's correct, when usually we instinctively know what's best for us. Keep in mind that your emotions are genuine. You're not disconnected from reality. You understand yourself better than anyone else, so be your strongest supporter.
8. Seize every chance life offers
The ideal moment to take a major step in life will never arise. Circumstances may not be optimal, but that should not prevent you from striving towards your aspirations and goals. Grasp the opportunity, as it may not present itself again.
9. Prioritize yourself
Don't feel guilty about doing so. Women, in particular, may develop the habit of prioritizing others. Although there are instances where this is appropriate, it shouldn't come at the expense of your mental or emotional health.
Take time to relax. Failure to recharge can take a toll on you. Discover what helps you unwind, whether it's a day in bed or enjoying nature, and allocate time for it.
10. Embrace both pain and happiness completely
Permit yourself to experience emotions completely. Embrace the pain, bask in your joy, and don't restrict your feelings. Like fear, pain and joy are emotions that will aid in self-discovery and ultimately help you understand that your emotions do not define you.
11. Be assertive in public
Make a habit of expressing your opinions. Assertiveness is like a muscle - it improves with use. Don't wait for an invitation to be heard. Participate in discussions. Share your ideas. Take action and recognize that your voice is just as valuable as anyone else's.
12. Practice self-compassion
The world can be full of harsh judgments and criticism - don't join in. Talk to yourself with kindness and avoid harsh self-talk. Acknowledge your achievements and growth. Don't forget to give yourself credit, not just on special occasions!
If you've gotten to thee end of this list, then congratulations for being committed to a higher level of self love. From this list, something might have stuck in your mind, and that might be your clue of where to start from.
Embrace the journey and take the first step today. Release the pressure and guilt, and simply take a step towards loving yourself more than ever.
P.S. Share your journey with us. It may help other women see a beautiful light at the end of their tunnel.